Travel

Lawyers new plan since our BF has used every excuse in the book not to come to KC is for us to go to him.  Our lawyer will be in that area in a few weeks and we are trying to pull this all together.  It will mean that Greg and I will have to travel to St Louis, pick up BF, drive to Columbia (2hours) have meeting with everyone, then drive Justin back St. Louis, and then oh yes drive the 4 hours back to KC.  Jeez!!!   How awesome is that going to be?

Update

Absolutely nothing has happened since last post.  The days seem to go like this,  spoke with BF and hes coming up, wait a week and he wont answer my calls, now hes not coming.  Then hes coming and now hes not coming, repeat, repeat.  No dates secured for the future, but the mediator is back from her summer vacation so we will try to reschedule with her.  In the mean time we celebrated Brandon's second birthday, Alyssa started school, car repair bills were more than the car was worth so we traded in our car for a newer model with a warranty, we are headed to OR next week for Greg's brother's wedding, and then Alyssa's birthday in a few weeks. Lots of things to do to TRY to keep our mind off that fact that our adoption is not finalized.  Sorry I dont update much, I have been pretty upset for the last few months.  We never expected our birthfather to tell us he would sign away his rights and we were pleasantly surprised, but then for him to take it away from us after dangling it in front of us has been really hard to get past.  We are trying though.

New Date

We finally found out why nobody could reach him, he lost his phone!  Third phone number in 2 months, jeez.  We heard from our lawyer that he was no longer wanting to sign his rights away.  BIG disappointment!  We were pretty surprised considering how well we were getting to know this family. Then we decided we needed to get him back to mediation and finally we heard this last Friday that he was willing to me us for mediation on July 18th.  So this is our new date to pray/hope for that this will all end.  On this date either he will sign his rights away or we will know our next step will be court (AGAIN)!  It seems like such a long time ago that we were thinking about being in court, going through the trial, worrying about the judge, but all those worries came flooding back. For now we will focus on his birthday coming up and trying to stay positive. 

2 Months

2 Months post mediation and nobody seems to be able to reach him. 

No News

Nearly two months post mediation and we are still not done.  We all thought the process would go relatively fast after Justin said he would "be ok with finalizing."  Too bad he has a lawyer that is too gun shy to ask Justin to do what he said that he would for fear of losing all the progress we have made!  So sick to think I have no idea when this will be over, I have no idea what the other attorneys plan is. We have sought the help of our mediator last week who sent a very nice and motivating email to the other attorney indicating the faster we can wrap this up the better for everyone, and we wait....nothing.  Now the mediator is planning on calling the other attorney to discuss the hold up.  I mean seriously now we have an attorney that is dragging his feet, can we catch a break! Very very very angry and tired of the unknown.

Same nose, same chin.